old-fashioned conversation vs. culturally relevant jargon
I’ll be the first to admit this- I can be a bit slooooooow. I was slow to get Facebook, Twitter and Blogging- and really, really slow to get a Mac.
Don’t misunderstand that for laziness, I really didn’t see the need for any of that until I HAD it and then the lightbulb went off above my head, the “ahhhh, now I get it.” moment. I suppose I can take this as far as conversationally I’m a bit slow. I never know the trendy, cool people sayings until they aren’t so trendy and cool and I show my age by saying something like, “as IF” in a conversation, perfectly torn from the mid 1990′s.
I’m used to just not having hip jargon or knowing the street names for illegal drugs and I’ve accepted that I’m a bit of a square. Wait- that is such an old school slam that there is a chance that is cool again, how very hipster of me…
Lately, however, I’ve been noticing an alarming trend in conversation that has me concerned. I don’t like this new commonplace saying that both my friends and co-workers regularly say to me. So admittedly- I’m a bit lost. Is this just something I need to jump on the trend bandwagon of and go with it althought it irks me? Or do I do the “be true to thine self” and tell people? UGH- my people pleasing side is plaster-smiled in overdrive and yet the truth is begging to come out from between my clenched teeth. What to do?
What, you ask, is this rude conversation trend that has you so upset?
OK, so I’ll tell you, but only after I share this one last plea: In this day and age of “instant” everything- we find ourselves running from the time we get up until that last email is sent at night. We work hard, play hard, text, email and multi-task ourselves into an efficient machine. We get double shots of expresso in the morning and double shots of tequila a night. Our phones beep with reminders and our online and physical calendars are highlighted with priorities. We google chat someone a few desks away instead of talking to them because it’s more to the point and we can keep working on that email while simultaneously chatting with 6 other people about different topics. We plan fun day trips, squeeze in play dates and try to be involved with community but even that feels forced and contrived sometimes. Life is busy and I’m starting to loose the ability some nights to “turn off” and relax, but I don’t realize I’m not relaxing because I’m in the zone and wired.
So, my pet peeve is sprung from conversation itself. With friends and co-workers alike, it actually started with friends and now I’m hearing it more other places so it’s contagious! Hah! Let’s take time to talk. Let’s be 10 words less efficient. Let’s build relationships as friends and take some time to listen. Not every conversation has to be focused and direct with that instant purposeful edge. Sometimes we need to chat without having to think too hard about it. Don’t misunderstand me- at work specifically there is a need for efficiency and we don’t need to be flippant or careless with out words but there needs to be some care and relationship as well.
Now that I’ve droned on and on, I’ll share with my specific pet peeve and stop being so general. I’ve heard this from almost every young person that I’ve talked to in the last month and I’m protesting that is must stop. It’s the “YeahYeahYeah” suddenly hitting you in the face. You are having a conversation, searching for your words, trying to share and then overrun with “YeahYeahYeah”. It’s like a verbal… not quite a slap but a pinch none the less. and it’s not just the words- it’s the TONE. To me, it says:
-“I’ve already heard you say that so stop saying it.”
-“I already know what you are about to say” (even though they don’t know what you are about to say)
-“You are wasting my time, get to the point”
Be honest- am I being waaaaay too sensitive? Am I just being a little cray-cray? Is this something I should just go with of or should I politely say- “umm, HEY LET ME FINISH MY DARN SENTENCE.”
Do you interrupt people with “YeahYeahYeah”? What does it mean to you if you do? Share with me so I don’t become a bigger dork- I need to learn, teach me readers!